How To Write and Use Positive Affirmations

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We have more power over our lives than we sometimes feel like.  How we think affects how we live.  What you think, you create.  Positive affirmations can be used as a tool to improve ourselves and our lives so that we can live our best life.

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By replacing stinkin thinkin with positive affirmations our worlds can open up to tremendous possibilities.

What are positive affirmations

Positive affirmations are simple sentences or phrases that are written in a specific way to describe how someone wants to be or the life they want to live.

Why do positive affirmations work

Positive affirmations help us move past the false narratives we tell ourselves that hold us back from achieving our best. 

Our minds like a machine.  It takes in every thought that we have and reacts to it.  After years of having the same thoughts, our bodies react to our thoughts out of habit.

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Using positive affirmations in an appropriate way allows us to rewire our minds, and ultimately the way our body reacts to our thoughts.

For example, if one wants to be more fit, but they continually say they do not have time to work out, they become conditioned to feel as though they are constantly busy, even if they are not.

If the same person changes the thoughts about working out to “I make time daily for exercise”, they become more aware of time openings that they otherwise would have filled with something of less importance.

How can positive affirmations help better our lives

In a simple way, they can change the way we view how things happen around us. As we start talking to ourselves in a more positive manner about specific goals, we start to make choices that reflect what we are saying.

They help us to believe that more is possible. Eventually, Our mind builds a habit out of the positive thinking.

How to create an effective affirmation

We can find positive affirmations everywhere, and many of them are very effective.  However, the best affirmations are individually tailored to our own needs.  Whether you choose to find some prewritten positive affirmations, or you want to make your own, it is important to know what the anatomy of an effective affirmation looks like.

1. Decide what it is that you want to work on

This is an extremely important step.  Knowing what area or areas in your life you want to change allows you to create an effective phrase or mantra that can help.  

As I was writing this post I realized that one false narrative I tell myself is that there is not enough time in a day to get everything I need or want to do done. I was able to easily identify this because, while I was struggling, much of the world proves otherwise by getting an amazing amount of activities and projects done. If they have enough time, then obviously there is enough of it. So my lack of time must be something else. It has to be a false narrative that I created.  In which case, I have the ability to change it.

2. Be specific

Our brains work in a very literal way.  Being specific allows our brain to know exactly what we are trying to tell it.

Back to the time example. I had to figure out how to get my brain to recognize there is enough time in a day since I had been telling it otherwise. 

“I have enough time in a day to do the things I need and want” is a simple sentence I came up with. Since I have changed my way of thinking about time I have been able to find new and more effective ways to manage the time I have.

Being specific tells my brain exactly what I want it to know. I am changing the false narrative from there is not enough time, to there is enough time.

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3. Use positive wording

Our brains can not process negatives as easily.  If we say I don’t want to do forget to do a certain activity, our brains will only hear forget to do the activity.

Another example is: I am don’t want to be in debt anymore. All the brain hears is I am in debt.

Can you see how that can be counter productive?

The use of positive wording tells your brain the results you want in the way you want it.

4. Write them in the present tense.

Putting the affirmations in the present tense tells your brain that this is in the moment.  The brain reacts in the moment.  It can not tell the difference between I am going to do well on a test now or I will do well on the test next week.  The brain reacts to the affirmation now.

When we talk to ourselves, our brains react to our thoughts at that moment. If you are talking to yourself about something that happened in the past, you will feel the emotions as if it is happening now.

The same thing happens when we talk to ourselves about the future.

If we speak about what we want in the future in the present tense, our brain perceives it as though it is happening now.

Some present tense words and phrases are; now, today, I am, I have, I do, and I choose.

How often should affirmations be done

Affirmations should be done 1-3 times a day for no less than 5 minutes, but no longer than 15 minutes. 

Tips to remember to say your affirmations

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Positive affirmations are most effective when they are done on a regular basis.  There are some ways we can remind ourselves that it is time to say the affirmations.  Some very common ways to remind ourselves can be the use of sticky notes or setting a reminder on our phones.

Using specific activities that are done on a daily basis as a reminder or trigger can be effective as well.

I personally like to say mine out loud when I am sipping my coffee first thing in the morning, and again right before I go to bed.

What ever way you choose, it should be tailored to your needs.

Why you should also take action that is congruent with your affirmations

While positive affirmations help prime our minds for positive results and allow us to believe that those results are possible it is imperative that we follow through with action.

I can tell myself all day long that I am a successful blogger, but if I do not actually write anything then it will never come to fruition.  The two go hand in hand.  I tell myself the positive affirmations, then I take action.  The positive affirmations help me get past any possible negativity I may have previously associated with the blogging so that I can more easily take action, but I still need to take action.

This is true with any goal. Positive affirmations is a tool to improve your mindset and align your energies towards the goal.

For some more affirmations check out this post here.

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Do you already use positive affirmations? What is your experience with them? Do you have any additional tips? Let me know in the comments below.


Finding balance, inner peace, and happiness, while helping others do the same, are what I strive for. Simple, yet so complicated.

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